I’m sure we all know the difference between thoughts and words. My question is, what happens for a thought to become words. What drives us to communicate what we’re thinking.
In my case in particular, what am I lacking that I don’t realize that if I communicate thought x, it’ll make the recipient of the communication feel awkward.
I’m sure for most it’s not all that confusing but I can’t seem to wrap my mind around it.
We should be able to speak to our friends and family, right? Tell them our thoughts. What if I’m feeling the “wrong” thing – but because I dont have the filters I don’t communicate it. Do I carry that wrong thought around with me? Who helps me work through that?
I know some of you may be thinking, “well figure it out yourself” but if I have a wrong thought and I dont know it’s a wrong thought…than what? How do you figure out you’re wrong about something with out speaking to someone about it.
I’m sometimes told that it seems like I hold back or I don’t share what I’m thinking. But then if I share I’ve potentially made things awkward.
I would get all teenage defiant and claim “well I’ll just keep everything to myself” but that’s not an option. I dont want to carry that. I dont want to carry bad feelings around if I’m not meant to have them.
– forever socially awkward