It’s amazing how past experiences shape our lives. It’s amazing what we take away from them, what we learn, what we change, and the ideas we form.
This is done in relationships all the time. A girl who is cheated on our abused in a previous relationship, will doubt a new suitor (wow that sounds old school), due to the experiences she’s had. Boys who have been used and taken advantage of will be more weary of what they do, say, feel in their next relationship.
This is also done in parenting. I remember my parents would punish me or “prevent” me from doing things or participating in activities because that is how my cousin got into some form of trouble. It was ridiculous. My father being the youngest of 8 children and my mom of 4 I had plenty of older cousins to make all the mistakes necessary to completely void my social life as a child/teenager.
I’m not saying these things are wrong, or right. They just are. Granted they are a bit frustrating, mostly it just intrigues me as to how much we punish people for the actions of others. We all do it, we’re all guilty of it.
It makes me wonder how much we are missing out on due to this, and what are we really protecting.
The next time you’re judging someone or forming a thought about something due to a past experience, put yourself in their shoes and think about how you would feel if you were being judged or written off due to something that was out of your control.
Personally, I think we all make enough of our own mistakes — we shouldn’t have to pay for others as well.
Just something to think about.